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Is singlehood taking over wedded bliss?

Updated: Aug 07, 2016 11:09 IST

London, Aug. 7 (ANI): All single people cherish your days, as a psychologist has claimed the idea of wedded bliss is largely a myth.

According to the study, being single allows the people to "live their best, most authentic and most meaningful life," reports the Independent.

Speaking at the American Psychological Association's annual convention in Denver, researcher Bella DePaulo said that she wanted to challenge the "conventional wisdom" that getting married helped the people live longer, happier and healthier lives.

She said that she had looked more than 800 different academic studies carried out of the last 30 years that mentioned single people.

"The available findings are telling. For example, research comparing people who have stayed single with those who have stayed married shows that single people have a heightened sense of self-determination and they are more likely to experience 'a sense of continued growth and development' as a person," said DePaulo.

"Other research shows that single people value meaningful work more than married people do . another study of lifelong single people showed that self-sufficiency serves them well: the more self-sufficient they were, the less likely they were to experience negative emotions. For married people, just the opposite was true," she added.

There are 16.2 million single people in the UK, compared to 23.7 million married ones, according to Office for National Statistics figures for last year.

DePaulo, who described herself as "single, always have been, always will be," said the reasons behind the relative popularity of unmarried life were "rarely acknowledged."

"Increasing numbers of people are single because they want to be. Living single allows them to live their best, most authentic and most meaningful life," she said.

"Single people are more connected to parents, siblings, friends, neighbours, and coworkers than married people are, and when people marry, they become more insular. The preoccupation with the perils of loneliness can obscure the profound benefits of solitude," she continued.

"It is time for a more accurate portrayal of single people and single life - one that recognizes the real strengths and resilience of people who are single, and what makes their lives so meaningful, added DePaulo.

She further said the married people were bolstered by the "relentless celebration of marriage and coupling and weddings that I call matrimania. Single people, in contrast, are targets of singlism - the stereotyping, stigmatizing, marginalizing and discrimination against people who are single."

But academic studies did not support the prevailing idea of "get married, get happier and healthier."

"People end up about where they were when they were single. In other ways, results are exactly the opposite of what we have been led to believe. Scholars are learning more about the risks of putting too much relationship capital into The One, and the psychological benefits of investing in The Ones. They are also beginning to realize that genuine attachment relationships are not limited to romantic relationships or the bond between parents and young children," she added. (ANI)

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